Prerna Journal

hmtday Menu Now
Today was methi parathas and garlic chutney for breakfast. Had it with curd. Filling and healthy.

hmtday Menu Now
Today was methi parathas and garlic chutney for breakfast. Had it with curd. Filling and healthy.

hmtday Weather Center
It is beautiful weather in Chennai now. Very cloudy and breezy also. Husband and I went for a short walk before breakfast after the girls left for school. It was very pleasant and green and we were both very fresh and active when we returned. It was a good idea.

hmtday Morning Musings
I read an article about friends in one of the old readers digest.

Summary...we should earn two types of friends definitely in our lifetime..one who will always give the right advice , make sure you win like Lord Krishna. The other who fights for you even when you are wrong..like Karna.

I have both these friends in my life...in fact the one like Karna also makes sure she gives me a nice dose after the fight is over..it is be verbal now but when i was younger boxes were also part of the package....ha ha ha..

hmtday Evening Thoughts
Went for dhol practice in the evening. It is more organised now...we are all in sync to a great extent..there are some who have played for many years..but there are a couple of first timers like me also....It started pouring suddenly in the middle of the practice session..The cute part is ..everybody ran under the building but ran first to save the dhols and other instruments from getting wet...


hmtday 10000 Tips
There is a difference between wishing for something and working towards something. Wishes may not always be fulfilled but when we work towards something then the probability is very high we reach our goals.

hmtday Life Is Beautiful
I spent time in the swimming pool by singing some old favorite numbers of mine while exercising. My friend kept tab of the counts and sets. It was so much fun....typical girlie fun...

hmtday Menu Now
Today is adai with coconut chutney for dinner. The girls , since they don't like adai, maybe egg dosa after they eat at least one adai.

hmtday Random Thoughts
Often people think that since i am not reacting to the not so nice things they have to say to me or about me, they can control me. They forget that one can control only the actions or words of another person. The thoughts that run in the other person's mind are completely his or hers. No body in the world can control another person's thoughts.

hmtday Happy Things
My friend left for Pune yesterday. Went saree shopping with her to Nalli yesterday before dropping her to the airport. On the way back there was a traffic jam in both directions because of heavy downpour. Luckily she was at the airport on time and landed in Pune also before time.

hmtday Travel Thoughts
Trip to Pondicherry was very enjoyable. Visited Auroville also. The walk to Matri Dome in the amazing green cover with thousands of butterflies and listening to the birds chirping was the best part of this trip. Visited some French Cafes in the white town. Had some really tasty baguette and desserts. Being a long weekend, it was very crowded. But luckily we were able to avoid that as we started very early to Auroville.

hmtday Parenting Place
Sometimes we think that when we are away from some where we can be like out of sight out of mind. It is the first time i am away from the girls and though i am enjoying here, my thoughts are constantly with the girls..they must be doing this now, they would have had food by now, they would be napping now...they make me complete...

hmtday Afternoon Thoughts
We reached Pondicherry in the afternoon. Both myself and friend were tired. We just ordered food through room service. After some time plan to go to the French quarters by walk and have coffee. Then spend some time cycling and enjoying the beautiful city before going to the beach for dinner and a stroll...

hmtday Travel Thoughts
My childhood friend is coming tomorrow and we are taking a 2 day trip to Pondicherry. Packing all done. Am so excited. It is one of my favorite places in India as i have beautiful memories from the last two trips with family....yippie..

hmtday Weather Center
Rain and thunderstorm predicted for the coming weekend in Chennai. I hope we get some respite from the otherwise very humid climate.

hmtday Menu Now
As hubby is coming late from work , we had Maggi for dinner today. It was raining in the evening. The hot maggi was absolutely delicious.

hmtday Random Thoughts
The girls finished their formative assessment 2 today. It has been about preparing tests for class 5 and class 7 for me the whole of last week. I am also looking forward to this long weekend as much as the girls.

hmtday Random Thoughts
I have noticed the quality of fruits deteriorating very much these days. The bananas are fresh and robust the first day but the next day, the skin is same but the inside is all soggy, the guavas also the skin is very soft and not firm. The shopkeeper wants to sell only organic fruits and vegetables which is triple the cost. How organically the products are grown is also questionable.

hmtday 10000 Tips
There are hundreds of YESTERDAYS we have lived, there are many TOMORROWS still to come. But there is only one TODAY. Live life to the fullest.

hmtday Happy Things
Today two of my swimming buddies and myself are going out for lunch to the restaurant in the clubhouse. As it is just 5 minutes from from my building so no time spent on travelling and and no hurry burry to come back home before the girls are back. Very simple and hassle free outing.

hmtday Menu Now
Today i am baking a apple cinnamon cake for my little one. The new thing is i am always making the same old vanilla or chocolate cake lately and i should try other options . This opinion is from the little Master Chef expert at home in the field of baking...who only messes up the dough and breaks the eggs outside the bowl when she is my assistant....ha ha ha....

hmtday Health Club
I sometimes make this smoothie at home. It is tasty and healthy and very filling.

Ingredients:
2 tomatoes
2 apples
2 carrots
grapes a handful(optional)
1 lemon squeezed
salt
pepper

Put all the ingredients in a blender and blend with around 1 cup water till u get a smooth juice consistency.

hmtday Random Thoughts
Yesterday, a very interesting incident happened when i took the girls to their music class. As i entered the waiting room, i saw newspapers scattered on the center table. By habit, i picked them up and arranged and kept them in a pile. I also mumbled something like people should know how to fold and keep the newspaper after reading. There were 2 other ladies there. One of them asked me,"How do u manage at home with your growing up daughters." and gave a sarcastic smile to the other lady present. I just smiled .Most of the times when something sarcastic or unexpected comes up we are stumped and out of answers. I came home and now i have an answer for her. I keep telling my daughters to keep their things in place after using it. It is easier when one is looking for it later on if the things have a fixed place and less time and effort is lost in searching. They are still kids..sometimes they do not ..that's ok...most of the times they manage to do..that is my reward. It is a good habit that i feel proud about cultivating in my girls which will help them in the future.

hmtday Menu Now
Today being Raksha Bandhan festival, i made sooji halwa and besan laddoo. The girls took that as their mid morning snack to school.

hmtday Days Today
Today morning went in receiving and making calls to all my brothers and i make it a point to call up my sisters also today being Rakshabandhan. After every weekend, i notice as a homemaker monday morning i am in one cleaning spree. The three kids( biggest being the hubby) make sure literally the house is full of games and art books and sheets and drawing and painting material or some project work with cardboards or shoe boxes. The cleaning up on monday is after the trio are done with their part of cleaning up...ha ha ha...

hmtday Days Today
Went for the dhol practice in the morning. Came back to make lunch and then some family time playing UNO. The girls have gone for their music class and i am here on Enoma...doing something which when i joined i had no clue would be giving my life an absolutely new direction and perspective.

hmtday Menu Now
Today afternoon was typical punjabi khana and my favorite..rajma chawal and baingan bharta with boondi raita. Ate a little extra than usual. My mom makes the best rajma chawal in the world. This has always been and still is the one dish i ask her to make when i am with her.

hmtday Family Time
Today afternoon all of us played UNO together after a long time. It was so much fun.

hmtday Days Today
Early evening went and did the basic grocery shopping with hubby. The practice session for the Ganesha festival has started. I am participating in the dhol procession. I am playing the tasha. We are a group of around 20 including adults and children. Good fun. It is celebrated in a very grand manner in the society here. Just came back after the practice.The finger is slightly bruised as am playing after a year. But the good part is the enthusiasm is doubled.

hmtday Morning Musings
Finished taking revision for the younger one as she has her exams from monday. The elder one is having half day school. After that since the weather here is so nice today, hubby and me enjoyed tea in the balcony mid morning.

hmtday Menu Now
Today was vanilla banana pancakes with honey for the girls and poha for us for breakfast. I tried to make a new smoothie with pineapple and curd but it turned out to be a flop as the curd and pineapple combination was not as per our taste buds. It was very appealing when i read the recipe in the book though...

hmtday Weather Center
Today weather is so beautiful. It is cloudy with lots of breeze. Does not feel like Chennai at all..as though am in some hill station. Hope it stays like this through the day.

hmtday Life Is Beautiful
Hubby came home with 4 pink roses . I think when we do something like having puja at home or invite people home to participate in that he likes it. He likes to have many people at home. He adjusts a lot like today since i had puja, he ate lunch out and called up to check before he started from office if it was ok for him to come home since it was a ladies function. He also helped me manage two cross girls because of making dosa very often last week. I think the roses are his way of saying he is very happy today. I am also very happy.

hmtday Menu Now
Today afternoon the menu was quick and easy lemon rice with potato fry and appalam. I wanted to do something special for the night but was busy so i made dosa and chutney. Girls not very happy. Tomorrow i will make it up to them and make their favorites.

hmtday 10000 Tips
You should sometimes do things that also makes others happy. In the process,you never know, you might land up being happier of the two.

hmtday Days Today
Today is Varalakshmi Nomba. We pray to Goddess Lakshmi for a long and healthy life for our spouse. Today the day just flew. Morning we decorated our Pooja room with lots of flowers, especially the statue of Goddess Lakshmi, made prasadam of black sesame kolkutta(modak), sundal(boiled and seasoned black chickpeas) and kesari(halwa). Then my mother-in-law and myself did pooja . In the evening we had invited married women to come home and bless and celebrate with us. It is like the haldi kumkum in Maharashtra. This year was slightly more special as in the early evening around 4, around 8 married old ladies came and said a special prayer together which lasted for around an hour. In unison. They were like Ashtalaksmis(eight goddesses) who came home and blessed me. After that many other ladies also came and participated in the function. The whole ambience of the house changed and there was so much of positivity and positive vibes. My mother-in-law was very happy . I do it every year because it makes her happy but every year the special thing is at the end of the day i am equally happy, maybe happier.

hmtday Menu Now
Today was idli chutney for breakfast. It is mostly a no cooking day as we are having leftovers from yesterday.

hmtday Life Is Beautiful
Now a days, in my society atleast the mindset is that as many adult members as many cars. It is more of a status symbol. Coming from Pune , for me commuting is about reaching the other place in the minimum time and most practical way..be it walking, auto, bus, two wheeler, cab, car..anything. I still use my two wheeler for nearby work as it is more practical and quicker. I avoid using it for long distances as it is a highway. I am often asked here why don't i buy a car for myself. It is not about the financial aspect of it. I do take the car sometimes for long distances or with my mother-in-law or the kids. It is just that i have been using the two wheeler for the last 25 years and i love it. Some people in my building think i am stingy or don't have class. I think i am happy and fortunate to have a two wheeler which i really really love riding.

hmtday Days Today
Will be going to the temple in the mid morning. It it a nice drive on the two wheeler and i like the temple. It has a lot of neem and banana trees.The temple is small but i like going there as i am able to connect with myself and pray in peace there. The puja is very simple and the whole ambience there makes me very calm.

hmtday Morning Musings
I was reading an article in the newspaper about when do we need to love our children more. I loved it. Some key points which i took home from the article....
- We love our children at all times
- We always show our love and appreciation when they do something good, win prizes , do all their work properly. This is the easy love as it comes spontaneously to us.
-Now comes the difficult love. And this is the love even we as adults require. This should come when the child makes a mistake, does not do his work properly or fails in something. The child wants to be held and told that we as parents understand their feelings and hurt and we are with them to help them do better next time. This is unconditional.

I don't do follow this most of the times. But then i am going to try it as i think it will help my bonding with the girls much better. I usually will get angry, then cool down then explain and then find a solution. The love part is missing sometimes. And the anger part i need to discard. Will work for it.

hmtday Menu Now
Just had some tea with biscuits after reaching home. Was feeling so tired when i stepped in. But two big glasses of cold water and later the tea did the magic. Am all set .

hmtday Food Food
Having guests for dinner today. Making mysore dal, paneer butter masala and aloo gobi with boondi raita and chapathi and rice for the main course and onion bhajiyas for the starters. Don't think i will have time make a dessert, so picked up mini cornettos .

hmtday Days Today
Today had gone with mother-in-law for her shopping. While going we took a cab. We managed in good time to do our purchases. While coming back though we got stuck. Ever other cab we booked refused to come to the outskirts. Finally after almost half an hour of phone calls and bookings we decided to go to the bus terminus and take the AC bus. It was a wonderful on the spot decision. The bus was equally fast and comfortable. One of the passengers seeing how tired my mother-in-law looked gave her his seat. People can be so nice. I often take the bus when i go alone as it is quicker. But today with her with me i was in double minds. But she was so happy that we made it home sooner than if we had taken the cab.

hmtday Useful Tips
Always check the bill details and the total amount before paying any bill. I have observed in supermarkets especially, that whenever there is a billing mistake it is always you who have paid more for some reason. It never happens that they charge you less even by mistake.

hmtday Health Club
With guests at home, couldn't d do any physical exercise. Planning to wear the shoes and go for a fast walk of 45 minutes once the sun goes down a little.

hmtday Days Today
Today is the death anniversary of my brother-in-law. I had two of my sister-in-laws home today. We spent a lot of time with my mother-in-law. She was telling us a lot of incidents from the past when he was around. We had a small puja at home in his remembrance. I had the chance of meeting him only a couple of times after my marriage as we had moved to Germany but i still remember how my father-in-law and him made me feel so special as a new member to the family

hmtday Useful Tips
The plates from the kitchen chimney can be directly put in the dishwasher. It saves you the time and effort to clean and scrub each plate manually. After the dishwashing the plates come sparkling.

hmtday Menu Now
Dinner tonight is macaroni pasta in white sauce with vegetables for the girls. For my mil, hubby and myself it is wheat rava upma with chutney or curd. There is some leftover custard in the fridge. Thought of that for dessert will help me to eat the upma.(upma not being one of my favorites)

hmtday Days Today
Today morning i got a call from a friend in the next building. She was like "Prerna, I am having cough and cold and fever for the last 4 days. Prasad(her husband) just left to office. Am wanting company as am feeling so bored stuck up at home. Come asap with a flask of ginger tea for both of us." I was at her place within 20 minutes. We had tea together. What i felt so nice about the whole thing was she thought of me and was so comfortable to tell what she wanted. That is how good friends are with each other. You don't need to think twice before calling each other up.

hmtday Life Is Beautiful
We are one lazy family today. Husband is sleeping in the bedroom. Girls are also lazing around on the sofa and listening to music. Mil is meditating. I was also feeling drowsy because of a heavy breakfast so had a cup of ginger tea and am here on Enoma.

hmtday Movie Times
Heard good reviews of the movie MOM. It is off the screens near my house. Planning to get a CD and watch it sometime soon.

hmtday Menu Now
Breakfast today was idiappam and sweet coconut milk. It is so tasty. Learnt to make it from a Malayali friend. Only thing is i always end up overeating and then feeling drowsy....

hmtday Life Lessons
We realize how tough we are mentally when we go through stressful situations. That is the time we realise how strong we are mentally. "Never give up" attitude works wonders.

hmtday Menu Now
After a heavy breakfast of peas paratha, lunch is khichadi with curd, papad and pickle. Short cut cooking.

hmtday Parenting Place
Was going through counselling session 76 , and this thought came to my mind, I thought i should share it with my friends.

When i was in college i remember having a lot of heated discussions with my mother regarding sleepovers. She would never give me the permission including at her best friend or my friends as well. I remember my father always coming to pick me up and sometimes waiting outside for the party to end. There were no cell phones those days. The only option was the landline. At that time i used to find my mother very unrelenting and stubborn and remember telling her so many mean things. But life is a full circle.

Recently , my daughters wanted to have a sleepover at their friend's house. And i had the same stand like my mother. "You are my dearies and i will not get sleep without you at home." i told my younger one. I do not know how much of this logic my younger one bought. To the elder one , i said ," It is for your safety and it is a house rule. I do have a reason for my decision and i will let you know when you are slightly older." They are both not 100% convinced and i got the title of "MEANY".

I am happy with this new title as i know when they grow slightly more older they will understand and respect my decision and love me for it as well. Thank u maa.

hmtday Night Hours
Had gone out to a friend's daughter's function. They had made all the arrangements on their terrace. It started raining all of a sudden. Luckily most of guests chipped in and helped move the arrangements back in the house. Within a couple of minutes , it became as though the house was the original venue. I felt proud to be part of such a nice and understanding crowd.

Came back late. But tomorrow is a weekend so it is all cool. Trying to catch up on the backlog of my study time. The girls are both tucked in bed. They were making fun of me while saying goodnight by reminding me that i need to study like i make them do when they have a backlog....ha ha ha...what goes around comes around.

hmtday Evening Thoughts
Most of the people around us are like us. They are very helpful especially in times of need. The also go out of their way to help us.

I had just got a new neighbour when my mother-in-law was admitted last year for severe stomach infection. It was a week before she got discharged. In that time i realised what a helpful neighbour and good friends God had given me.

The girls used to be given the house keys and evening snacks as soon as they were back from school by the neighbour. The friends all made sure that since i was spending most of my time in the hospital and husband was travelling commuting to the hospital which was 20km away was taken care by them. Food and lunch was parcelled for the girls everyday in the morning by them. I just want to say thank you to all.

hmtday Useful Tips
If someday you have excess curd. Make buttermilk and add asafoetida, roasted cummin powder and salt. Transfer to a jug and keep having small portions the whole day. It is very good way to keep the body hydrated.

hmtday Stress Busters
One of the easiest and quickest way to relax. Cut two thin slices of cucumber taken from the fridge. Close your eyes and place the cold cucumber on them. It is a very good eye mask.

hmtday Health Club
For those who do not like to have milk for some reason, curd is a good substitute. It has all the values of milk and is a probiotic food.

hmtday Menu Now
Today is Friday. So its the traditional drumstick sambar, beans poriyal and valaka fry with rice and rasam for lunch.

hmtday 10000 Tips
Respect and trust cannot be demanded from a person. Respect is commanded. Trust is earned.

hmtday 10000 Tips
Always respect your teacher. Nobody is perfect. They may also make mistakes. But never forget that they are your teacher because of the knowledge and skills that they have worked hard to achieve. You still have a long before you get there.

hmtday Brain Fitness
One thing i always look forward to in the newspaper is the SUDOKU. Over the years i have started timing myself for different difficulty levels. It is good fun.

hmtday Travel Thoughts
I am having my childhood friend over from Aug 12 to Aug 15. She is coming alone as she has some work in Pondicherry. We are planning to have an all ladies trip to Pondicherry on the 12th and 13th of August. Hubby has agreed to take care of the girls in my absence. I am sure they will have a lot of fun with the Hitler of the house away..ha ha ha.... I love the white town and the cafes in Pondicherry. The walk by the beach is amazing.

hmtday Evening Thoughts
Planning to go for a brusque walk with my friend today evening as i missed my afternoon swimming session. The sea breeze has set in. It will help me to relax.

hmtday Food Food
Base recipe for soup (carrot/ beetroot/ potato/ zucchini /mushroom)

Ingredients
Any vegetable of your choice 500gm
cornflour 1 tblsp
2-3 pods of garlic
milk 1 cup
butter 2 tsp
salt

Method
Boil the vegetable. Grind to a paste. Heat the butter. Add finely chopped garlic. Saute it. Then add the vegetable paste. Add the milk and salt and water and bring to a boil. Mix the cornflour with water to make a smooth runny paste(say 1/4 cup). Add this cornflour to the soup little by little till you get the right consistency. Simmer for 2-3 minutes. Tasty homemade soup for all season.

It is a favorite with my girls. Pink soup for beetroot, green for zucchini, orange soup for carrot. It is a big hit with garlic bread for kids.



hmtday Health Club
In the Club here in Hiranandani, the cultural team is organizing a week long sports event for independence day. I went and enrolled the younger one for sack race, the older one for three legged race and all of us will participate in the cyclathon. I think it will be a fun.

hmtday Days Today
Before coming to the outskirts we lived for some time with my mother-in-law in the heart of the city in Anna Nagar. My better half was born and brought up there. It has been almost 5 years since we moved in here. Initially since we were so used to getting our usual things done there we used to head there almost every weekend to get it done.

Over the years we have found places nearby to get the usual things like grocery, tailoring, bank etc. We are going to Anna Nagar today to close all the unused accounts, deposits for mother-in-law and myself . I think it will help us to be more organised as we have bank accounts nearby now.

hmtday Easy Recipes
Sprouts salad

Ingredients
moong dal sprouts 1 cup (steamed or boiled)
onion 1
tomato 1
cucumber 1/2
pomegranate 1/4 cup
lemon 1/2
roasted peanut a handful
boiled potato 1/2
coriander
green chilli
lemon juice

To the sprouts add all the vegetables after finely chopping them. To this add the pomegranate, peanuts, lemon juice, salt and finely chopped coriander and green chilli. A healthy salad is ready.




hmtday Food Food
Paneer(cottage cheese) tikka

Slice small square cubes of paneer around half a cm in thickness. Similarly slice deseeded tomatoes, capsicum and onion.

For the marinade
Take hung curd . Add some roasted jeera powder, chilli and coriander paste to it.

Mix all the vegetables and paneer in the marinade and keep aside for an hour.

Take some grill sticks and alternately pierce the marinated vegetables and paneer in it. Grill on a griller by turning the sticks from time to time till the vegetables are all grilled properly.

Serve with mint chutney.

hmtday Weight Loss Tips
I don't know, but loosing weight after 40 is slightly more difficult than when one is young. I am religiously going for aqua-aerobics for the last couple of days every afternoon but have not lost any weight. But i have had inch loss..in the sense i see my clothes are fitting better. I am also feeling more brisque and active. I think it is a good sign.

hmtday Useful Tips
Putting my thoughts into words takes a lot of effort on my part. It is very time consuming if i have to type on the keyboard. I have found a workaround to this. I first write own all my thoughts on paper, make corrections and keep it ready. Then i just type on the keyboard taking reference from the paper.

hmtday Shopping Cart
After couriering the Rakhis i got yesterday, i went and did some vegetable and grocery shopping. The price of a kilo of tomato was 116 Rs. I think while buying i will need to count the number of tomatoes i pick up instead of weighing them.

hmtday Stress Busters
For me biggest stress buster is cooking. When i am really stressed it is the best time for me in the kitchen as a cook. It helps me to completely focus on something different completely and not go into the mode of thing about my stress problem again and again.

hmtday Menu Now
The girls are having a holiday today. So instead of having breakfast and lunch separately we had a brunch of puri aloo and raita.

hmtday Days Today
Just lost my grading from A to B++ on Cafe Enoma. Am feeling sad but i know i deserve it as i made a mistake.

I did not read the Pysychology Cafe Guidelines properly and assumed that we have to give the meaning of the list of words. Missed the important point that they have to be original. But it is a good lesson. Before contributing to anything make sure to read and remember the guidelines properly. I was all the time trying to understand the meanings of the word from different sites and posting, sometimes totally unoriginal .

But i know that it will help me to pull up my socks and work harder for what i have lost.

Apologies to all my friends at Enoma for any inconvenience caused because my mistake.

hmtday Days Today
"Rakshabandhan" is around the corner. Since we live in the outskirts, we do not get Rakhi's here. So took a day trip to the city to buy Rakhis. Going to the city is like a picnic. Start after everyone has left home and come back before the girls are back from school. But despite starting at 9.30 in the morning and spending around two hours in the city i managed to be back a good half hour before the girls came back from school. Tomorrow will courier all of them so that they reach their destinations on time.

hmtday Food Food
Au-Gratin

Ingredients:
1 onion
1 carrot
100 gm american corn
1 capsicum
100 gm mushroom
100 gm broccoli
100 gm cauliflower
white pasta sauce
origano
100 gm mozzarella cheese
Pasta like penne , macaroni, fussili (not spagetti)
salt

Method:
Chop all the vegetables finely. Saute them in butter and let them cook. Boil the pasta, say 2 cups. To the white sauce add all the cooked vegetables , pasta, oregano, chilli flakes and salt. Transfer to a baking dish and grate some mozzarella cheese on it.
Bake in a preheated oven at 200 degree centigrade
for 8-10 min. Tastes amazing with toasted bread, especially buttered and sliced baguette.



hmtday Useful Tips
To clean ceramic ware and steel taps, just put a drop of Harpic and rub with scotch brite. Then rinse with clean water. Good for washbasins and taps.

hmtday Life Lessons
"A wise old owl sat on an oak,
The more he saw, the less he spoke,
The less he spoke, the more he heard,
Why aren't we like that wise old bird."

I learnt as a child the reason why God has given us two eyes is to see better, two nostrils to breathe better, two ears to hear better but one mouth to talk less and talk only good things. If you have nothing worthwhile or good to talk then it is better to be quiet and listen.

hmtday Random Musings
I have started doing Aqua-Aerobics since the last two weeks along with swimming. It is a good variation to the regular swimming.

Good thing is I see a big difference in the flexibility of my body which had become rigid because of the last couple of months of total inactivity.

hmtday Days Today
My husband always tells everyone in the house including the kids, mother-in-law and myself to never commit to something unless one is fully convinced. Once committed then reasons should not be given for that particular thing not happening.

If a person is not fully convinced then it is better to clarify ,reason it out and come to a consensus.

My problem is sometimes i say yes to things at that given point of time and then do it as a compulsion or do it without really knowing the reason why i am doing it in the first place. Result is since i am not giving my 100%, it shows on the outcome. I sometimes do it not to offend the other person or to avoid an argument. But it leads to further dissatisfaction and confusion.

My better half and me had an argument this morning because of this habit of mine. We made up by the time it was afternoon. But on retrospect , i know it was my mistake. I am going to make a conscious effort to not let it happen again and be clearer in my answers.


hmtday Days Today
As promised by myself and husband, we took the girls for a day out to the beach resort. We went to GRT Radisson Bay for brunch. The buffet was OK but the service was excellent. After that the girls did some cycling at the resort. We spent the evening at the beach. The girls played a lot and had a good collection of shells by the time we wound up for the day. It was wonderful to see my little one make sand castles with her father. It was a very relaxing and enjoyable day.

hmtday Food Food
Mayonnaise sandwich

Take 4 tblsp of mayonnaise. Add to this 1 tblsp of tomato ketchup and 1/4 tsp of mustard sauce. Add some finely chopped onion, tomato, cabbage and capsicum to this. Add some salt as per taste. Spread some of this mixture in between two bread slices . Do the same for the remaining mixture. Healthy sandwiches are ready.

hmtday Ways To Save Money
Switch off the light, fan, water heater , AC, washing machine and other electrical equipment when not in use. The AC and water heater consume a lot of electricity. We can save our resources and money by doing the same.

hmtday Weight Loss Tips
The best way to loose weight is eating right along with increased physical activity. Do not diet. Drink lots of fluids and eat small portions 6-8 times a day at regular intervals. Avoid processed sugar and fats. Increase intake of vegetables and fruits. Roasted nuts are good for munching instead of chips. Eat all what our grandparents ate. The were healthy. Genetically eating the same will do us good.

hmtday Life Lessons
I would like to talk about an Aunt of mine who inspires me. She is a cook book writer and ex-editor of a publishing company. She is a very outgoing,well read , lively person who loves travelling.

After the loss of her husband last year, we were all worried whether she would go into depression as they were very very much in love and close to each other. But I was very happy to see her very independent and back to her usual gymming, cooking, public speaking and travelling routine soon. She told me something which is very touching, sensible and true. The reason why she is so full of life and busy and active is because she has been like that all her life and cannot stay idle. In her words she might fall sick if she does. She enjoys life to the fullest and is always happy because that is how her husband always wanted her to be. She says if he is watching her from heaven he will be happy there knowing she is happy here.

hmtday Happy Things
Every individual is so different , especially in the way they emote. My husband does not talk much but he is so good in giving cute surprises to everyone at home. Today i got a small chit on my laptop after he went to work saying 'Thank you. The breakfast (parathas and pineapple juice) you made today was very tasty.' It is not the first time i am getting the chit, but i feel so special getting one every time.


hmtday Food Food
Custard Ice-cream

Make custard the usual way (say 4 cups). Take 250 ml of thick fresh cream. Whisk it till soft peaks are formed. Fold the custard slowly into the cream (2 tblsp at a time). Put this into an airtight container and freeze till it sets. Yummy home-made ice-cream .

hmtday Food Food
Black Chana Cutlets

Sometimes we have leftover black chana curry. First seperate the curry and the chana. Knead the curry with wheat flour into a dough to make chapathis. Crush the boiled chana(say 1 cup). Add 2-3 slices of crumbled bread, 1 large boiled potato,some finely chopped onion, coriander, green chilli, garam masala, chat masala, salt and roasted jeera powder. Make cutlets. Shallow fry in oil.

hmtday Happy Things
Roger Federer becomes the first man to win eight Wimbleton titles. Being a huge Federer fan, it made my day. What amazes me most about this sports icon is his journey. In his initial days, I remember him as a racquet smashing hothead but now i see him as a very respected role model and youth icon, not just for his amazing game but also for his conduct on and off court.

hmtday Random Musings
Read a quote today "Enjoy every moment of life. Don't save it. There is no system to get a refund on an unused system." How true. We must try to make every moment we breathe very special. Time does not wait for anyone. Let us make the most of what God has given us..NOW. Be it any idea, thought, action..anything at all. Live life Now. NOW will become THEN in a blink of the eye.

hmtday Happy Things
I got a very pleasant surprise from my little one today. My elder daughter is playing the piano for the last & years. My personal favorites are Rasputin and Rhapsody. After practicing secretly for over two weeks, my little one played Rasputin for me on the guitar today morning. Then we had both playing together. It was so much fun.

hmtday Random Musings
Good news for India. Yesterday US passed a defence bill of $651 - billion to boost defence cooperation with India. This will help curb the Chinese activities against our country to a great extent.

hmtday Fashion Sense
Fashion sense to me is what one can carry off and is comfortable to wear. Any cloth which is stitched well will make one look smart. Also it is important to dress as per the occasion.

hmtday Food Food
Went out for lunch with two of my friends to bbq nation. It was a good change as we chatted and laughed a lot. The food was a bit spicy so i made it up by eating a little extra dessert. A perfect example of stomach full is equal to heart full.

hmtday Easy Recipes
Sooji toast.

Add some finely chopped onions, tomatoes, capsicum , green chilly , american corn, coriander to half a bowl of curd. Add 2 tablespoons of rava/sooji to this mixture and some salt. Set aside for 15 minutes. Cut bread slices into 2 pieces and spread the curd mixture on it. Toast it on both sides on the tava with some butter till nice and toasted. It is a good tea time snack.


hmtday Last 60 Minutes
Gave my daughter a test paper i had prepared as revision for her maths exam tomorrow. Then i read some pages of School Psychology Part 2.

hmtday Happy Things
Last night my husband came home late after a very tiring and long day at work. After having dinner he suddenly came up with the idea of going out for a walk. It is so nice after ages to walk together under the stars and enjoy the cool breeze. It helped us to unwind and relax.

hmtday Sleep Tips
Some of things i do that work for me to get a good nights sleep:

- Having dinner by 7:30 since bedtime is around 10:00.
- Having a warm cup of milk just before going to bed.
- Not seeing TV at night.(weekend are exceptions)
- Listening to instrumental music. (My daughters play the guitar and piano and it is a good family activity )
- Reading a couple of pages from a book, magazine, newspaper.

It works very well for me.

hmtday Random Musings
A beautiful start to a wonderful week. It poured last night in Chennai bringing us a much needed respite from the humidity. Woke up to a very breezy and pleasant morning. Enjoyed a hot cup of tea in the balcony watching the sunrise. Am all geared up for the coming week after a relaxing weekend.

hmtday Random Musings
I was reading through some messages and came across a beautiful one from a teacher. It went something like: Educate your children to be happy not rich, so they know the value of things not the price. I couldn't agree more. Sometimes even though we are in a position to buy or get somethings for our children we refuse as parents. Only then do the children understand what really do they want and makes them happy and choose accordingly before asking.

hmtday Happy Things
We ordered a Num Nom set for my younger one 14 days ago. One needs to witness to believe the excitement at home. The same two question everyday and atleast twice a day "When are we getting the parcel" or "Did the Amazon person deliver the package". We order so often online. But because of the excitement of my younger all of us at home also started waiting for it. Just five minutes before she is back from soon it was delivered today. It was so much to see her singing and dancing and jumping and hugging her toys. Took me back to my childhood days.

hmtday Random Musings
Spent all of my morning and afternoon at the scan centre. the scan would report as to whether i needed to go for a surgery. I think the attitude of people rubs onto us. I was very cool till the sonographer said she needs more time to contemplate. Then she said that she would consult her senior as it was complicated. I was not so relaxed after that as she seemed very hassled. Anyways , waited and met the duty doctor after that with the reports. She is from the old school and brushed aside all my concerns just by first listening to my history, comforting me and then giving me the good news that all is well and with a little treatment i should be all good very soon. What a relief.

hmtday Food Food
Today was a baking day. My elder one is a chocolate fan and the younger one is a die hard vanilla fan. We had a long and very hot deliberation (i think even hotter than the weather of Chennai) of whether it is chocolate or a vanilla cake to be baked. Not having the time to bake two different ones we finally we landed up with a marble cake for the first time at home. Necessity is the mother of all inventions and makes all mothers come up with innovative ideas as well.

hmtday Health Club
Ever since my MIL has got a good report from her physician regarding her diabetes, I see a very motivated person. She has doubled her walks and is doing it with a lot of interest than compulsion. Her aim now is to reduce her blood sugar levels to an extent that the doctor starts prescribing tablets instead of injections.

hmtday Happy Things
Yesterday, we were invited over to dinner to friend's place. The happy occasion being the selection of their very creative and talented daughter into NID, Vijayawada. It was a wonderful evening spent with two proud parents.

hmtday Happy Things
Magic happens in routine things at home. A very pleasant thing happened today morning. The printer at home was not working for some time. Despite both husband and me trying to get it rectified it simply refused to work and we kept getting all kinds of errors. We finally decided to wait for the technician to turn up. Today we had a colleague of his for breakfast who wanted to take some printouts to work. We gave it a try one last time and VOILA it started printing like it had never conked ever....

hmtday Monsoon Season
Monsoon to most of us is synonymous with ginger tea and bhajiya or pakodas. To me it also brings back some amazing memories of going to Lonavala with the sole intention of getting wet the whole day and eating the roadside bhuttas and chikkis. It also reminds me of starting early in the morning to see the gates of Khadakwasla dam being opened because of excess water in the dam followed by a trek up Sinhagad fort to eat the world famous bhajjais. The chill breeze and the raindrops hitting the face as you wipe your face to see further, forgetting your umbrella on purpose at home....what lovely days.

hmtday Open Thoughts
Food for thought....We all know that relations are strained with our neighboring country Pakistan. Coming from a defence("Fauji") background and having a father whose religion is service to the motherland, it is normal we grew up with the same ideologies. But should the effects of this strained relation spill on the cultural exchange between the two countries. We sending back artists from Pakistan from our country. When i see the families of our soldiers i feel everything is fair in war. But when i look at it from a artists point of view then i feel creativity and art should not be a slave to man made differences.

hmtday Random Musings
I was having a conversation with my swimming buddy and she happened to ask about my favorite comfort food. The answer i gave her was very simple..Dal Chawal. On further contemplating on my answer i was thinking...Most questions in or about our life also have very simple answers. We just have to think and omit the relatively complex ones.

hmtday Happy Things
On some days one is simply so happy. I think the happiness of the people around rubs onto us. A happy mother-in-law who is so relieved that her physician has reduced her insulin intake. A happy husband who has sorted some long pending technical issue at work. A happy elder daughter who has just finished a new piece of music on her piano and got appreciated for the same by her doting father. A very happy Little Miss Dennis the Menace who has come home with appreciation from her favorite teacher. My world couldn't be happier. Thank you GOD for giving me such a beautiful day.

hmtday Random Musings
Eid Mubarak to all. Wished all my friends celebrating this festival today. Had a very tasty lunch of mutton biryani and sweets. Being a vegetarian ,i miss out on something really divine is what i gather from hubby and daughters every year. But having a sweet tooth i make up by having everyone's share of sweets.

hmtday Random Musings
SALE SALE everywhere...I think it is nothing but playing with the consumer's mentality. A shrewd way to get rid of last seasons leftovers by various online shopping stores as well as various department stores.

hmtday Health Club
Due to medical reasons have not been hitting the gym for the last three months. For a fitness loving person like me it was a tough time. After getting a green signal from the gynaecologist, started swimming last week. Am feeling so happy.

hmtday Afternoon Thoughts
Time management

A normal day for a homemaker like me is very routine. Routine to an extent that every activity is done on most days at approximately the same time. By routine i don't mean boring. The time pattern has over the years become very much an important part influencing my personality. Even a slight deviation in it due to unexpected reasons gets me worked up. I think that though we may try to keep with with time, there may be unexpected delays due to different reasons. Most of these reasons are not in our control. I am now training myself not to get worked up if somethings don't happen as per schedule but plan measures so that it does not affect my temperament and the next course of acitivities.


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